A Carer’s Bank Holiday
I try to keep off Twitter and Facebook at Bank holiday weekends. Hanging around social media on a bank holiday activates slightly resentful feelings that I’m not proud of. I get a little sad of stories of trips to the coast, barbecues with old friends, long lay ins.
I know how unsettled Steven can become by all the changes that a bank holiday brings. So, I work overtime to limit the anxiety but overload myself in the process.
Today is a good example. On Mondays Steven comes to work with me at the Arts Centre. I go out at 8am to pick up the half time refreshments – a bottle of orange juice and a bake well tart. This is because, if the weather is nice, Steven likes to go into the garden at the Center and recreate the scene where Mr Bean is attacked by a wasp as he eats his cherry bake well. Once he’s settled at the Center, I nip down to the cash point as it’s the only time I get during the week to draw out the money from the personal budget for the cab fares. And then back to South lands for lunch. Today, the sandwich shop was closed, so we came back early and I gave up the 30 minutes I normally have free at this time to cook a bacon sandwich.
Sandwich eaten, we then had a gap where Phillip and Holly would normally be, so I suggested we start the Monday Mr Bean session early. A DVD of 5 back to back episodes and my input required to respond to Steven’s narrative of the episodes. That took us up to Countdown and again, I was needed to confirm that Rachael had just revealed five consonents and four vowels. Whilst Rachael was doing her stuff, I went round the living room with the duster and did a pile of ironing.
One last job – cook tea whilst Steven watched an Abba documentary. I can multitask and can sing Super Trooper whilst grilling a steak. I don’t mind doing any of these things and indeed, get a great deal of pleasure from the way Steven engages with these things. It just helps if I don’t know that my friend is on a pub crawl, watching the football.
The support worker arrived at 5pm to do the bath and for the first time since 5am,I got 15 minutes to myself.
The weekend is nearly over so it’s probably safe to turn the computer on. And roll on the May bank holiday in a couple of weeks.
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