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Choice Isn’t Everything

February 3, 2015

Just a short story to throw into the “Choice” discussion pot.

Steven woke up this morning, saw the snow and decided he didn’t want to go to his water aerobics group.

He made that choice himself – he wasn’t presented with a situation that required a choice by someone else.

So far, so good. All learning disabled people should be able to chose how they live their lives.

Since then, Steven has been in full scale meltdown. Because his Tuesday routine is broken. Albeit, that he chose to break it himself.

So, just reflecting – if routine is the foundation stone for making his world safe (safish?), how does one factor in choice?


From → Social Care

  1. Shirley Buckley permalink

    The problem is that if you give someone choice, you give them responsibility, which they cant deal with, so you have to take over the responsibility for them catch 22. You then have to be the one who picks up the pieces. This is one reason the MCA wont work

  2. Yep, I so know that situation, autism eh!!

  3. And is it reasonable to surmise that had you taken the decision for Steven that it was in his best interests to for him to be persuaded to stick to his routine and go to water aerobics, (and assuming that he had proved persuadable, which, I take it, is by no means certain) you would still have been on a hiding to nothing, meltdown-wise, because when Steven goes to the pool, the pavements are not supposed to be white and slippy?

  4. frannie permalink

    So agree choice is not everything, skill of managing it is,I hate the way the word choice is used. there are times when we tryto encourage and get past, round a no choice knowing the enjoyment taking part will have and the huge benefits, but sometimes we get it wrong and it backfires, but the one thing I am sure of it is done in best interest weighing up all the skills and knowledge we have

  5. liz@jesslinworld permalink

    My sons often make bad choices – they seem determined to make their own mistakes – sometimes repeatedly – rather than listen to their boring old mother. I think all you can do is remind Steven next time he wants to change his routine – of what the consequence was. I think this wanting the spontaneous thing is because he is a young man? And he is testing how much he can manage? Please forgive me if I have got this all wrong. Hope you both get through the day OK.

  6. simone aspis permalink

    I suppose when we make choices we may create alternative routines. Maybe its about supporting Stephen to think what he would do if he does not want to do aqu – maybe if Stephen thinks there is a plan b then that can be part of his rapetroue of routines – if he goes to acq then that is one routine – if he does not what is the alternative routine that Steve can fall upon – which he has thought about in adance

  7. TRS permalink

    Choices and their consequences

    My brother-in-law is inactive but substantially overweight. The agency that provides his care have a four week meal planner that would give him a healthy diet and which should help. Each day though they ask him what he wants to eat because he has the right to choose. His choice is the first thing that comes into his head and is rarely a healthy one but the agency abides by this because he is deemed competent and he has the right to choose Woe betide them if they don’t for the consequences could be unpleasant. The duty of care lies a distant second behind the consumer’s rights however poor the results.

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